Love comes in all shapes and sizes, and ages too.
Gone are the days when the age gap dating was looked down upon as something weird and embarrassing. These days as long as both of you are of legal age you could have 1000 year age difference, and no one would bat an eyelid except for the government who might be a little interested in the secret behind your immortality.
One form of age gap dating that is becoming popular is women dating younger men. With things like the cougar mentality and related stigma over and done with, you are free to date whoever makes you happy even if they are significantly younger. However, this doesn’t mean that it is all sunshine and daisies.
So you had a crush or you feel in love with a younger guy?
Here is all you need to know about these relationships so that you have a better idea of what you are getting yourself into.
These men are young and genuinely hot-blooded, and it might seem to you like they never settle down. They are always out and about looking for the next adventure. Do not fight it. Relive your glory days and let this energy rub on you a little.
Whether it is a job, hobby or even you, younger guys are passionate. They do everything with deliberate enthusiasm which is going to make things a whole lot more interesting in your relationship. It would get even more interesting if you start seeing a foreign man, like an dating an Eastern European man!
It is one downside you might have to deal with when dating these guys. Most of them are not ready to fully settle down and might not give you all the attention that older guys would offer. However, this does not always mean that they are disloyal or will do anything to hurt you. So do not be insecure, give it time.
More often than not, there is a chance that you will be making more money than the younger guy you are dating. If you are into traditional relationship roles where you feel the guy should pick up the tab, then things might get a little weird. The secret is talking things over and making sure that both of you are on the same page in terms of expectations.
While there is a general shift in attitude towards women dating younger men, it is still not entirely accepted as the norm. Do not be surprised if your friends assume you are doing it as part of some mid-life crisis lash out.
You might also have to deal with some resistance or awkwardness from his friends as well. More often than not, your younger beau’s friends might not see the relationship as anything serious. Do not overthink about it. Just do your best to make things work and prove them wrong.
Remember that energy we mentioned earlier? It will come in pretty handy when it comes to your intimate life as a couple. Enough said.
Given the age difference, there is always an instinct to protect them and act like their mom. Please resist this at all costs. It makes everything weird and ruins the chances of things truly working out between you two.